A Generous Grandparent's World Turned Upside Down
When it comes to lending a helping hand, most people would expect their loved ones to repay them with gratitude. But for an elderly grandfather, this is precisely what happened – nothing but lies and abuse.
The senior citizen had grown children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, yet they all seemed to think he was senile, catering to their every whim. When his daughter, "Marie," borrowed a large sum of money with the promise to repay it in installments, he let her know that loans should be repaid, but she claimed she had paid back more than she actually had, and even accused him of blocking her calls after he stood up for himself.
What hurt him most was the lack of respect from his own flesh and blood. He felt taken advantage of, and their behavior left him deeply hurt. His wife, who had been a rock during one of his depression episodes, now wanted out of the marriage, citing that he had "chipped away" at her self-esteem.
While the grandfather was willing to try and change for his wife's sake, offering to see a therapist, take antidepressants, and attend empathy sessions, it seems like some family members are lost beyond repair. His daughter Marie has cut ties with him and accused his wife of blocking her contact, which wasn't true.
Dear Abby's advice suggests that the grandfather should consider couples counseling with a licensed marriage and family therapist to help salvage their relationship. The fact remains that some family dynamics can be toxic and long-lasting, making it difficult to turn back the clock. The older generation is often expected to put others first, but sometimes this expectation comes at the cost of their own well-being.
In a world where love and respect seem like distant memories, it's essential for all generations to learn from each other and grow together, or risk losing touch with what truly matters – genuine human connection.
When it comes to lending a helping hand, most people would expect their loved ones to repay them with gratitude. But for an elderly grandfather, this is precisely what happened – nothing but lies and abuse.
The senior citizen had grown children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren, yet they all seemed to think he was senile, catering to their every whim. When his daughter, "Marie," borrowed a large sum of money with the promise to repay it in installments, he let her know that loans should be repaid, but she claimed she had paid back more than she actually had, and even accused him of blocking her calls after he stood up for himself.
What hurt him most was the lack of respect from his own flesh and blood. He felt taken advantage of, and their behavior left him deeply hurt. His wife, who had been a rock during one of his depression episodes, now wanted out of the marriage, citing that he had "chipped away" at her self-esteem.
While the grandfather was willing to try and change for his wife's sake, offering to see a therapist, take antidepressants, and attend empathy sessions, it seems like some family members are lost beyond repair. His daughter Marie has cut ties with him and accused his wife of blocking her contact, which wasn't true.
Dear Abby's advice suggests that the grandfather should consider couples counseling with a licensed marriage and family therapist to help salvage their relationship. The fact remains that some family dynamics can be toxic and long-lasting, making it difficult to turn back the clock. The older generation is often expected to put others first, but sometimes this expectation comes at the cost of their own well-being.
In a world where love and respect seem like distant memories, it's essential for all generations to learn from each other and grow together, or risk losing touch with what truly matters – genuine human connection.
I'm with Marie on this one. Like, if someone's gonna take your money, they should be able to pay you back, right? 
It's not like he's asking for the moon here. And yeah, his wife's been through some stuff and that's no joke, but at the same time, it's not cool that she's trying to use his 'depression' as an excuse to leave him. 
Family dynamics can be super toxic and it's okay if they're beyond repair. We shouldn't be expecting everyone to just magically get along all the time. It's a shame that some people are more concerned with their own feelings than doing what's right. 
. It makes me think about my own grandparents, they're always putting everyone else first and it's like they have a sixth sense that knows when someone needs help 
. But this story highlights how sometimes, even with good intentions, things can go terribly wrong if we don't learn to communicate effectively 
. I'm actually thinking of looking into couples therapy for my own parents' relationship, just in case 
. It's crazy how toxic family dynamics can be and how hard it is to break free from them 
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... I mean, it's crazy how some family members can be so ungrateful and hurtful 
It's not about being "senile" or whatever Marie said, but more like they forgot what respect and love really means 
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. That takes courage, you know? And it's interesting how couples counseling can help... maybe it's not too late for him and his wife 
. We should all try to learn from each other and grow together, 'kay? 
I feel so bad for that poor grandfather 
. The fact that she cut ties with him and his wife is devastating 
. Can you imagine if the tables were turned? It'd be a nightmare 
. I think couples counseling is a great idea, but it's not just about fixing the relationship, it's also about setting boundaries and expecting respect 
. We need to relearn how to prioritize our own well-being and communicate effectively 
. But maybe more importantly, we need to teach our younger generations about empathy, understanding, and the importance of human connection 
. We can't turn back the clock, but if we learn from each other's mistakes, we can grow stronger 
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. Like, your grandma's worth more than a few bad habits and entitlement issues from her kids & grandkids 
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. The fact that Marie cut ties with him after all those lies 
is just brutal. And now his wife wants out? 
. I feel bad for the grandfather, he deserves so much better 
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. I mean, think about it... they're all actin' like he's some kinda crazy person, but really he's the one who's been taken advantage of 
. I'm pretty sure she's the one who needs some therapy, not him 
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couples counseling is def the way to go btw 
maybe it can help them work through their issues & come out stronger on the other side 
. But you know what they say... some families are like that. 
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