Southport inquiry: killer's father 'sorry' for failing to deal with son's violent behaviour

Father's Failure to Address Son's Violence Leaves Family with Haunting Regret.

A somber scene unfolded at the public inquiry into last year's devastating attack on a Taylor Swift-themed holiday club in Southport, as the father of 17-year-old killer Axel Rudakubana expressed profound remorse for his failure to tackle his son's violent behavior. Alphonse Rudakubana told the hearing that he was "very scared" of Axel and had avoided confrontation with him, fearing it would escalate the situation.

As a result, his son went on to search online for extreme material, including violent content and extremist ideologies, before ordering a stockpile of weapons from an online retailer. The father's reluctance to intervene in his son's internet activity meant that he was not monitoring his online activities, which ultimately contributed to Axel's descent into violence.

Alphonse Rudakubana acknowledged that his failure to address the issue had catastrophic consequences, for which he is "desperately sorry." He admitted that he had accepted his "share of the responsibility" for his son's actions, which included stabbing three young girls to death at a summer holiday club.

The father also repeatedly criticized other agencies and institutions, accusing teachers of unfairly singling out Axel for punishment and making malicious referrals to the Prevent counter-terrorism scheme. His outburst was a stark contrast to the somber tone set by his account of failing to address his son's violent behavior.

A heartbreaking revelation came from Axel's brother, Dion Rudakubana, who expressed shock at his younger sibling's sudden decision to leave home alone. The family had been keeping knives hidden in their kitchen since 2019, and only found an opened knife packaging on the morning of July 29 when Axel left the house. Despite this, they failed to call the police.

Dion Rudakubana described his brother's behavior as "very frightening" before he was stopped from returning to school by his father, where it is believed Axel had been planning to attack pupils against whom he held a grudge. The family had found large number of parcels in the living room with neither they nor their parents were allowed to touch, which raised concerns about potential danger.

As the public inquiry continues, Alphonse Rudakubana's words have left many to ponder on the devastating consequences of a failure to address and tackle violent behavior, highlighting the importance of effective parenting and intervention.
 
omg u guys can't believe this 😱 alphonse rudakubana is literally shaking at the public inquiry 🀯 his failure to talk to his son about axel's violence online is just heartbreaking πŸ˜” i feel so bad for those poor girls who got stabbed πŸ’€ and their families too 😭 my heart goes out to dion rudakubana, his words are still echoing in my head "he was very frightening" 🀯 how could they not call the police when they found an opened knife packaging at home? 🚨 this is just a huge reminder that we need better support systems for families dealing with violent kids πŸ‘§πŸ»πŸ‘¦πŸ» and more effective parenting strategies to prevent such tragedies from happening again πŸ’ͺ taylor swift fans, i know u guys are thinking of them too πŸŽ€πŸ’•
 
πŸ€¦β€β™‚οΈ Can we take a deep breath now? 😩 This whole thing is just heartbreaking. The dad is literally begging for forgiveness because he didn't bother to check his son's online activity... yeah no kidding, genius move. πŸ™„ I mean, who needs to talk to their kid about violent content and extremist ideologies when you can just avoid confrontation and hope it goes away? πŸ’β€β™‚οΈ It's not like it's going to magically disappear on its own or anything.

And let's be real, the dad is totally deflecting blame onto everyone else - teachers, institutions... anyone but himself. πŸ™ƒ Like, dude, you're the parent. You've got one job: to keep your kid from becoming a mass murderer. 🀯 How did he not see that coming? πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ And now his kids are left dealing with the aftermath of his failure. πŸ˜”

This whole situation just feels like a big ol' mess, and I'm still trying to pick my jaw up from the floor. 😲 Can we please just get some real support for these families and find a way to prevent this kind of thing from happening in the first place? 🀞
 
I don’t usually comment but I just can’t help think about this case and how it makes me so sad for that family πŸ€•. It’s like they were all walking around with this weight on their shoulders, not knowing what was gonna happen next. The dad's excuse that he was scared of his son is hard to swallow, it feels like an excuse to him rather than a genuine reason. And the fact that he couldn’t even monitor his own kid's online activity? That’s just mental 🀯. I don’t know what can be done in these situations but it feels like we need more support for parents and kids who are struggling with this stuff.
 
This is just so heartbreaking πŸ€•... I mean, you can't help but feel for this poor dad who's just so clearly consumed by regret πŸ˜”. He's really taking the fall for not doing enough to stop his son's descent into violence. And honestly, it's hard to blame him - how many parents would want to confront their own child about violent behavior? But still... you've got to wonder what could've been done differently 🀯. I mean, was he just too scared or too overwhelmed? Should he've been doing more online monitoring? It's all just so frustrating 😩.

I do find it interesting that the dad's outburst at the hearing was a stark contrast to his earlier words of remorse though πŸ’β€β™€οΈ. You'd think you'd see some consistency in his message, but nope... it's like he's trying to shift the blame or something πŸ€”. Anyway... this whole thing is just really, really sad 🌧️. Can we all just take a minute to try and be better parents and look out for each other? πŸ€—
 
I'm really shook by this dad's admission 🀯. How could he be so scared of his own son that he didn't even try to talk to him about what was going on? It's not like Axel was a tiny kid anymore - 17 is not exactly 'tiny'. And now we're talking about kids who are dead because of it πŸ˜”. I mean, I get that parents want to avoid conflict, but this is just ridiculous. If you don't know what's going on with your child, how do you even begin to address it? And it seems like Axel was getting more and more extreme online... I feel so bad for those kids' families πŸ’”. The dad's blaming everyone else too - teachers and the Prevent scheme? Come on, man πŸ™„. Take some responsibility for yourself.
 
πŸ˜” this whole thing is just heartbreaking... i cant believe a dad could be so clueless about his own son being violent & extremist online... it's like he was in denial or something... 🀯 the fact that he wasn't even monitoring his son's internet activity is just appalling, and now 3 innocent kids are dead πŸ’€πŸ‘Ž. it's not just the dad who should be held accountable, but also those institutions & agencies that enabled him to downplay the situation... schools, teachers, etc πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ. what's even more shocking is how the whole family was aware of the potential danger, yet failed to take action πŸ•°οΈ. it's a tragedy and we should all learn from this 😒
 
Dude, this is so wild 🀯... like, how could anyone not see the red flags? I mean, the dad was too scared to talk to his son about his behavior, but then he's surprised that Axel goes on a killing spree? And what's up with all these agencies and institutions getting blamed for not doing enough? It sounds like they're just trying to deflect responsibility πŸ™„. The family's own paranoia is almost as bad as the stuff Axel was looking at online... it's like, they were so worried about their "share of the responsibility" that they forgot about actual helping their son πŸ€”. And those knives in the kitchen? Unbelievable, dude 😱. This whole thing is just a big mess...
 
omg u cant blame alphonses rudas for not takin action lol his son was super secretive about his online activities & he wasnt aware of the stuff axel was searchin 4 he even said he wus scared to confront him lol like u cant just chill with ur kid whos been radicalizin & stockpilin weapons 🀯

i feel bad for dion tho, lil bro must be goin thru some serious trauma rn his words r so honest & heartbreaking πŸ™ it just goes 2 show that even when ur parents dont do enuf, the kids stil gotta step up & protect themselves

anywayz, alphonse's admission of failin is a good start, but we need more ppl 2 take responsibility 4 their actions πŸ‘Š hope this public inquiry leads 2 some real change πŸ™
 
πŸ€” Axel's dad is totally right that he wasn't tough enough on his son. You can't just sit back & let your kid become a psychopath 🚫. I mean, 17 is NOT old to start looking for extreme stuff online. The fact that the teachers were trying to help is weird tho, Axel was clearly a ticking time bomb πŸ“¦. It's crazy how he just walked out on his family & left them to deal with the aftermath 😱. That kitchen knife situation is honestly chilling, I don't know what's more disturbing - the fact that they had knives lying around or the fact that no one called the cops until it was too late 🚨. We should all be taking parenting 101 seriously πŸ“š.
 
πŸ€• I'm still trying to process how one dad can be so clueless about his own son's violent tendencies... like, what kind of dad doesn't monitor their kid's online activity? πŸ“Š It's just crazy to me that Axel's dad is blaming everyone else for not catching the red flags sooner and not acknowledging his own failure as a parent. 😩 This whole situation is super tragic and makes me wish there were more resources available for parents to teach their kids how to spot the signs of radicalization and violence. 🀝
 
man this is so sad πŸ˜”... it's crazy how Axel's dad was too scared to talk to him about his feelings or online activity and now 3 innocent kids are dead πŸ€•... and what's even more shocking is that his own kid had been planning an attack on other kids before he got caught 🀯... it's like, where were the parents supposed to be? πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ at least they're owning up to their mistakes now and taking responsibility for Axel's actions πŸ‘ but what about all the other families out there who might be going through something similar? we need more support systems in place, not just for kids but for whole families struggling with mental health issues 🀝
 
πŸ€• The case of Axel Rudakubana's tragic descent into violence serves as a stark reminder of the catastrophic consequences that can unfold when parents fail to adequately address their child's concerning behavior 🚨. Alphonse Rudakubana's reluctance to intervene in his son's online activities and his acceptance of his "share of the responsibility" for Axel's actions is a heart-wrenching exemplar of the devastating effects of inaction πŸ’”. As we navigate these complex issues, it's essential that we prioritize effective parenting strategies and proactive intervention techniques πŸ“š. By doing so, we may be able to prevent similar tragedies from unfolding in the future πŸ’•.
 
I'm so worried about families dealing with these kinds of issues πŸ˜”. It's heartbreaking to hear that Axel's dad was too scared to talk to him about his online activity & it led to such tragedy πŸ’”. I think we need to have more open conversations about mental health & parenting in our communities, especially when it comes to teenage boys who are going through some tough stuff 🀝. We can't just blame one person or agency for these kinds of issues, we gotta work together as a society to create safer spaces for everyone πŸ’–.
 
I'm still trying to process this heartbreaking story πŸ€•. I think we need to talk about how our online platforms are designed to handle these types of situations 😬. I mean, Alphonse Rudakubana's son Axel was searching for extreme material online, but did the platform really do enough to flag it and prevent further harm? πŸ€” The fact that Axel went on to order a stockpile of weapons online is just shocking πŸ’£.

I'm not saying the government or teachers are blameless either πŸ‘₯. But let's be real, parents need to take responsibility for their kids' online activities too 😬. I think we need to have a bigger conversation about how we're protecting our children from extremist ideologies and violent content online πŸ“š. Social media companies need to do more to educate users about online safety and provide resources for those who need help πŸ’».

It's not just about taking down bad content, it's about creating a safe space for kids to grow up online 😊. We need to prioritize their well-being over our own convenience πŸ™. I'm all for free speech, but let's find a way to balance that with keeping our kids safe from harm πŸ’•.
 
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